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Dating On Your Level

Okay, hear me out. I'm not talking about the people who don’t have a pot to piss in, or a place to lay their head at night but demanding their significant other make a six-figure salary, have their own car and no children; they have issues and we know that already!

Levels, lets talk levels!

People always say, “Date at your level,” but what does that really mean? What does dating at your level look like? Everyone should have standards, but I think many people drop the ball on not only defining their level but implementing a standard in certain areas.

I feel lately too many people have been placing ridiculous standards of what someone can do for them on a materialistic level as opposed to what a person can do for them mentally, emotionally and most importantly, spiritually in a relationship. While it is absolutely fine (actually, its law) to have standards for who you decide to be in a relationship with, it’s equally (if not more important) to realize the significance of having qualifications that feed your soul and spirit as opposed to what kind of car he or she drives. Surface level demands will only yield surface level results and in order to have a fulfilling relationship it is best to keep your shallowness in check!

In my opinion, many relationships tend to fail because people are constantly choosing to be in relationships with people who do not want the same things they do. For example, if you are the relationship type, and know you are looking for a relationship, there is no reason you should be entertaining someone who is dating for sport (it makes no sense, and that's why you are always hurt). It isn’t to say that people cannot change, but be careful not to fall in love with their potential, Instead, focus on realizing who and where they currently are in the relationship at the time of your involvement with them.

When you fall in love with someone’s potential, you have the tendency to ignore what is being presented right in front of you. You are not falling in love with the person at all, but who they could possibly become and usually, unless they have expressed that they want to become your partner, you are setting yourself up for failure by ignoring all of the signs that this person is NOT where you wish for them to be right now, and honestly, there is a good chance they never will be. If you happen to be in love with someone who is not on the same page as you, the best thing you can do is to let them go!

Examples of dating on your level:

You both want kids

You both do not want kids

Both are looking for a non-committed relationship

Both are looking for commitment

You both are okay with sex before marriage

.. Seriously, its not just about money!


MJ Harris says you should not date a person who does not have as much to lose as you, would you agree?


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